Steve & Martin

{Real Wedding} A same sex festive wedding with tweed suits, cheeky cakes & plenty of fun! | The West Mill, A No Corkage Wedding Venue, Derbyshire. | Images: Rosie Kelly Photography

Wedding Details


    Real Wedding at The West Mill Venue, Derbyshire

    Groom & Groom: Stephen & Martin

    Date: Thursday 28th December 2017

    Wedding Style: A same sex festive wedding with tweed suits, cheeky cakes & plenty of fun!

    Photography: Rosie Kelly Photography

    Your Love Story? 

    We met on gaydar; an outdated and now defunct homosexual dating website.

    We dated for two years, then moved in together, and a year later Steve cunningly convinced Martin to take him walking in the Peak District. We’d been pretty regular visitors to the Peaks for weekend walks. These were usually accompanied by rolling banks of freezing fog, horizontal rain, or lightning storms. On the day itself the fog cleared on the walk up to Mam Tor and Steve proposed with perfect views over the Kinder Valley. Martin said yes!

    What was your inspiration and vision for your day?

    We wanted a big party! Our theme was festive, yes! Christmassy, no! We went for holly and thistles, white and purple. The rest of the vision was the venue itself; the brick, the light and the interior are just stunning.

    Why did you choose The West Mill Venue?

    We fell in love with the venue on first sight and really loved the team, who made us feel welcome and valued from the first day. It wasn’t stuffy or pretentious, but still had a real sense of history and great style. Having everything on site meant that we didn’t have to worry about moving between venues on the day (handy when you’re getting married on December 28th and are expecting bad weather [it was lovely]) and we could just focus on having a good time. Which we reallllllllllly did.

    Did you do any DIY projects?

    We made 8 litres of raspberry gin as favours/dining place names.

    Tell us about the details…

    Martin’s favourite food in the world is cake so we had a selection of our (his) favourites: Victoria Sponge, Cookie Dough Surprise, Lemon Drizzle, a Rainbow Cake, Nutella Brownies, and Salted Caramel Pretzel Rocky Road. We loved being part of the great wedding tradition but also wanted to make it a bit gay so decorated the cakes with copulating lego in as many positions as we could arrange them into. The stars of the show.

    We loved the stationery products and named each table after an Indian city (which Steve researches at University). To liven the meal up we arranged for someone on each table to “host the roast” and surprised them with Italian hats and aprons, the latter featuring Michelangelo’s David in the buff.

    What was on the Menu? 

    At the drinks reception we served Crémant sparkling wine and bottles of Punk IPA. The canapes were mini-lasagnes, fish and chip cones, Staffordshire oatcakes with cheese, Yorkshire puddings and beef, quails egg and hollandaise and cheddar scones with goat cheese.

    For dinner we had an Italian theme: butternut squash and sage ravioli; Staffordshire Leg of Lamb stuffed with Pancetta, Anchovies, Garlic and Fresh Herb, with crushed new potatoes and seasonal veg; and tiramisu for desert. We served a Bordeaux and an Italian Pinot Bianco, with more Crémant for the toasts.

    There was a tea and coffee station all day, for those who didn’t want to drink for 11 hours straight (?).

    What was your favourite part of the wedding?

    The ceremony! We hadn’t really rehearsed anything and the whole thing was a big blur but we felt completely safe in Sophie’s hands (our wedding manager). On the morning itself we had asked both of our Mum’s if they’d walk us down the aisle. It was amazing to have them with us at the beginning of our new life together. We had two readings which our friends did amazing justice to: Sara reading excerpts from a Walt Whitman poem; and Charlotte reading the lyrics to Dolly Parton and Kenny Roger’s “Islands in the Stream”. Miraculously, the sun was out all day, and the top floor was just stunning. We had personalised the vows and declared in front of ours friend and family to journey with each other, make home together, and cook our Sunday roasts (Martin) and iron our shirts (Steve).

    Can you sum up your wedding day in 3 words?

    Pride, Party, Perfect

    Do you have any advice for future brides & grooms?

    The staff are incredible and organised everything for us on the day; so we’d advise you to focus on how much FUN you’re going to have! We were told to take regular “time outs” together, which was great advice, and our private dressing room was great for that. The “host the roast” was great fun and an opportunity to give even more people something to do (and to get some great photos ;). Order plenty of wine!

    Steve & Martin – The West Mill, Derby – Winter Wedding from an_other_film on Vimeo.


    Your Dream Team

    Photographer: Rosie Kelly Photography

    Videographer: Kye Corfield (still motion as part of the package with Rosie Kelly)

    Your Outfits: Tailored tweed suits and knitted silk ties by Smalleys, Nottingham. Brogue shoes and belts from Ted Baker. Rose gold cuff links by Simon Carter.

    Hair: VO5 wax moulding putty

    Make Up: A kiss mark from Aunty Valerie. Other than that, none.

    Cake: Cake table by Gavin Clark

    Flowers: Avant Garden

    Stationery: The Paperoo Store on Etsy,

    Band/DJ: Dale Bridge and Ian Morgan

    Photo Booth: 321 Smile Photobooths

    Decor/Props: Lewd Italian aprons and chef hats. Fornicating lego on the cakes. Welcome sign and invites by our friend Chelle Dixon

    Transport: Two coaches by Linburgh Coach hire for end of evening.

    Wine: Sourced from Red Squirrel Wines


    The West Mill is a No Corkage Wedding Venue in Derbyshire. If you want to find out more about us, we’d love to hear from you. Simply download our brochure here or contact our events team to book a viewing.

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